Keep On Singing

March 6th, 2007 by anaalayu

Like any good mother, when Karen found out that another baby was on the way, she did what she could to help her 3-year old son, Michael, prepare for a new sibling. They find out that the new baby is going to be a girl, and day after day, night after night, Michael sings to his sister in Mommy’s tummy. The pregnancy progresses normally for Karen, an active member of the Panther Creek United Methodist Church in Morristown,Tennessee. Then the labor pains come. Every five minutes every minute. But complications arise during delivery. Hours of labor. Would a C-section be required? Finally, Michael’s little sister is born. But she is in serious condition. With siren howling in the night, the ambulance rushes the infant to the neonatal intensive care unit at St. Mary’s Hospital, Knoxville, Tennessee. The days inch by. The little girl gets worse. The pediatric specialist tells the parents, "There is very little hope. Be prepared for the worst." Karen and her husband contact a local cemetery about a burial plot. They have fixed up a special room in their home for the new baby - now they plan a funeral. Michael, keeps begging his parents to let him see his sister, "I want to sing to her," he says. Week two in intensive care. It looks as if a funeral will come before the week is over. Michael keeps nagging about singing to his sister, but kids are never allowed in Intensive Care. But Karen makes up her mind. She will take Michael whether they like it or not. If he doesn’t see his sister now, he may never see her alive. She dresses him in an oversized scrub suit and marches him into ICU. He looks like a walking laundry basket, but the head nurse recognizes him as a child and bellows, "Get that kid out of here now! No children are allowed. The mother rises up strong in Karen, and the usually mild-mannered lady glares steel-eyed into the head nurse’s face, her lips a firm line. "He is not leaving until he sings to his sister!" Karen tows Michael to his sister’s bedside. He gazes at the tiny infant losing the battle to live. And he begins to sing. In the pure hearted voice of a 3-year-old, Michael sings: "You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy when skies are gray — " Instantly the baby girl responds. The pulse rate becomes calm and steady. Keep on singing, Michael. "You never know, dear, how much I love you, Please don’t take my sunshine away—" The ragged, strained breathing becomes as smooth as a kitten’s purr. Keep on singing, Michael. "The other night, dear, as I lay sleeping, I dreamed I held you in my arms…" Michael’s little sister relaxes as rest, healing rest, seems to sweep over her. Keep on singing, Michael. Tears conquer the face of the bossy head nurse. Karen glows. "You are my sunshine, my only sunshine. Please don’t, take my sunshine away." Funeral plans are scrapped. The next, day-the very next day-the little girl is well enough to go home! Woman’s Day magazine called it "the miracle of a brother’s song." The medical staff just called it a miracle. Karen called it a miracle of God’s love! NEVER GIVE UP ON THE PEOPLE YOU LOVE

Making Valentines Day Sweet for Your Sweetheart

February 12th, 2007 by anaalayu

Listening and Languages

Each year, lots of men I know cringe with the approach of Valentine’s Day. They wonder just what it is that will make the day special for their partners and how they can best communicate love. And we all know that the wrong thing given to a sweetheart can be worse than giving nothing at all.

Well, based on my experience in working with couples, and in my own now nearly 25 years with the same partner, I am offering some simple suggestions.

Commit to Listen

There is nothing that communicates love than a willingness to listen to your partner. I remember a marriage counselor once who told us that women in general have a built-in need to communicate about three times as much as men in general. There are certainly exceptions to this rule, but I believe the general trend is true.

Giving your partner quality listening time, and then really listening to her with a goal of understanding, is a much appreciated gift.

Figure Out Her "Love Language"

One of the most important books I have ever read on relationships is The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman. In fact, my wife and I have given this book as a wedding gift to many young couples. The premise of Dr. Chapman’s book is that we all receive love in different ways. The way we receive love best is called our "love language." Dr. Chapman identifies five basic love languages:

  • sharing quality time
  • physical touch
  • expressing words of affirmation
  • giving and receiving gifts and
  • performing acts of service
  • When my partner and I read this book, we concluded that Julie received love best by my sharing quality time with her, while I tended to show love generally through performing acts of service. So, even if I cleaned the house from top to bottom and made dinner, she didn’t feel love if I didn’t make time to spend with her.

    Conversely, I best receive love through words of affirmation while Julie was a quality time giver. So she had to learn to tell me often that she loved me, admired me, and told others that she loved me for me to feel love.

    These were startling revelations for each of us, and have really contributed to improving our marriage.

    Pamper Her

    Most of our wives and girlfriends appreciate a chance to be pampered a little. One of the best features of a home we recently purchased is a jetted tub in the master bath-just the place to go for my sweetheart to unwind and relax and feel a little pampered. Here are a few ideas about thing you can do for Valentine’s Day to pamper your partner.

    Give her a day at a Day Spa. Offer to take a vacation day and stay home with the kids so she can enjoy a day spa visit-your treat. At a day spa, she can just be pampered all she wants-a little time in the hot tub, a massage, a little rejuvenation.

    Plan a little romantic getaway. There are so many great bed and breakfast inns and resorts today, and they offer a real opportunity for a little pampering. You can find a comprehensive listing of bed and breakfast operators at bedandbreakfast.com.

    Picture Her Glamorous. Some partners love the idea of being a model for a day and receiving a gift certificate for a glamour shot. Various portrait studios offer a service where they invite your sweetheart into the studio, do a professional makeup and hair style and create the overall glamour model look and then shoot a professional portrait. She will look and feel like a princess and you will have a permanent reminder of the experience.

    Find her favorite fragrance. If you know your partner’s favorite perfume and it’s one you like as well, this can be great gift.

    Memorialize Memories

    A memorable Valentine’s Day gift can be one that recalls favorite memories from your partner’s past or from your history as lovers. Consider:

    Fill a Memory Tin. This one takes a little thought and planning, but is sure to please. Think back about the fun times and memories you have shared together and write a little line about each one. For example, "Getting caught making out at the park," or "When you first told me you were pregnant." Then fold them up and put them in a little heart shaped tin you can find at a variety store this time of year. She will have a ton of fun remembering the good times with you!

    Post the Pics. Most framing or photography stores will have picture collage frames where you can put favorite photos into mats. Dig through the pictures at home and build a photo collage of favorite memories.

    Mementos in a Box. Does your partner have a dresser drawer full of souvenirs or mementos? Things like concert ticket stubs, matchbooks, restaurant napkins, etc. from your life together sometimes find their way into boxes or drawers. Consider taking a few of the meaningful ones and head down to the local framing shop to have them put in a memory box. Or you might take one or two special ones and have them encased in lucite at a local trophy shop. These can again make fun and memorable Valentine’s Gifts.

    The best way to celebrate Valentine’s Day is to give your partner the gift she would appreciate, not the one you think she should have. Focus on her and not you-and this Valentine’s Day will be the best ever.

    How To Say I Love You

    February 12th, 2007 by anaalayu

    I love you is a powerful phrase and saying I love you is a big step in any relationship. Learn the right time to say I love you and give yourself the best chance of hearing "I love you too!"

    Difficulty: Easy
    Time Required: Varies

    Here’s How:

    1. Do You Mean It? Decide if you really want to say "I love you" or if you have an ulterior motive. Escalating a relationship to the love phase for sexual, financial, or other secondary reasons only causes problems down the road.

    2. Will it be Reciprocated? Calculate whether or not you believe your partner is at the same juncture. If you partner is using phrases like, "I’m falling for you", "I’ve never felt this way", or "I could spend forever with you", there’s a good chance your "I love you" will be reciprocated.

    3. How Will the Message be Delivered? Decide the best way to communicate the message based on you and your partner’s style. If your partner loves text messages or emails, consider a cyber-expression. If your partner is the spontaneous type, then mix the "I love you" into a fun-filled evening together.

    4. Can you Back it Up? Saying "I love you" for the first time will be more meaningful and impactful if you back it up with a few reasons. Tell your partner what you love about them, whether it’s their gentle spirit, passionate kisses, or optimistic outlook on life.
    5. Will you Take the Pressure Off? Your partner may respond positively immediately or they may be caught off guard and need some time to let the moment sink in. If your partner doesn’t respond right away, give it a chance. There’s no reason to cause a fight. Just because you’ve been planning this moment, remember it’s new and possibly out of the blue for your partner.
    6. Are you Ready for the Next Step? Don’t get fooled into believing all the pressure is lifted once "I love you" is on the table from both parties. Escalating a relationship to the "I love you" phase opens the door to discussing long term commitment and possibly marriage. Be ready for the next steps if you say "I love you".

    Billie Myers

    November 12th, 2006 by anaalayu

               Kiss The Rain

    Hello
    Can you hear me?
    Am I gettin’ through to you?
    Hello
    Is it late there?
    There’s a laughter on the line
    Are you sure you’re there alone?
    Cause I’m
    Tryin’ to explain
    Somethin’s wrong
    Ya just don’t sound the same
    Why don’t you
    Why don’t you
    Go outside
    Go outside
    Kiss the rain
    Whenever you need me
    Kiss the rain
    Whenever I’m gone, too long.
    If your lips
    Feel lonely and thirsty
    Kiss the rain
    And wait for the dawn.
    Keep in mind
    We’re under the same sky
    And the nights
    As empty for me, as for you
    If ya feel
    You can’t wait till morinin’
    Kiss the rain
    Kiss the rain
    Kiss the rain
    Hello
    Do you miss me?
    I hear you say you do
    But not the way I’m missin’ you
    What’s new?
    How’s the weather?
    Is it stormy where you are?
    Cause you sound so close but it feels like you’re so far
    Oh would it mean anything
    If you knew
    What I’m left imagining
    In my mind
    In my mind
    Would you go
    Would you go
    Kiss the rain
    And you’d fall over me
    Think of me
    Think of me
    Think of me
    Only me
    Kiss the rain
    Whenever you need me
    Kiss the rain
    Whenever I’m gone too long
    If your lips
    Feel hungry and tempted
    Kiss the rain
    and wait for the dawn
    Keep in mind
    We’re under the same skies
    And the nights
    As empty for me, as for you
    If you feel
    You can’t wait till morning
    Kiss the rain
    Kiss the rain
    Kiss the rain
    Kiss the rain
    Kiss the rain
    Oooooohhhhh
    Kiss the rain
    Oooooohhhhh
    Kiss the rain
    Hello
    Can ya hear me?
    Can ya hear me?
    Can ya hear me?
     

    October 21st, 2006 by anaalayu

    The Three Degrees Lyrics- When Will I See You Again

    Hoo-oo ha-a ha-a hoo-oo
    Precious moments
    When will I see you again
    When will we share precious moments
    Will I have to wait forever
    Will I have to suffer
    And cry the whole night trough?
    When will I see you again
    When will our hearts beat together?
    Are we in love or just friends?
    Is this my beginning
    or is this the end?
    When will I see you again? . . .
    Hoo-oo- a hoo-oo
    precious moments
    Are we in love or just friends?
    Is this my beginning
    or is this the end?
    When will I see you again
    . . .

    My song….

    October 12th, 2006 by anaalayu

    Turn Back The Clock - Johnny Hates Jazz

    Another day is ended
    And I still can’t sleep
    Remembering my yesterdays
    I begin to weep
    If I could have it over
    Live my life again
    I wouldn’t change a single day

    I wish that I could turn back the clock
    Bring the wheels of time to a stop
    Back to the days when life was so much better

    Lying here in silence
    Picture in my hand
    Of a boy I still resemble
    But I no longer understand
    And as the tears run freely
    How I realise they were the best years of my life

    You might say it’s just
    A case of giving up
    No
    But without these memories where is the love
    Where is the love

    If I could have it over
    Live my life again
    I wouldn’t change a single day

    Why can’t I turn back the clock
    Bring the wheels of time to a stop
    Back to the days
    Oh no no
    I remember when
    Life was so good
    I’d go back if I could
    Oh oh I wouldn’t change a single day
    Don’t let the memories slip away
    I wouldn’t change a single day
    Don’t let the memories slip away

    Torn

    September 5th, 2006 by anaalayu

    I thought I saw a man brought to life
    he was warm he came around like he was dignified
    he showed me what t was to cry
    Well you couldn’t be that man I adored
    you don’t seem to know - or seem to care what your heart s for
    I don’t know him anymore
    there’s nothing where he used to lie
    my conversation has run dry
    that’s what’s goin’ on
    nothing’s fine
    I’m torn
    I’m all out of faith, this is how I feel
    I’m cold and I am shamed
    lying naked on the floor
    illusion never changed
    into something real
    I’m wide awake and I can see the perfect sky is torn
    you’re a little late
    I’m already torn

    so I guess the fortune teller’s right
    I should have seen just what was there and not some holy light
    but you `crawled beneath my veins and now I don’t care, I have
    no luck
    I don’t miss it all that much
    there’s just so many things
    that I can’t touch
    I’m torn
    there’s nothing where he used to lie
    my inspiration has run dry
    that’s what’s goin’ on
    nothing’s right I’m torn… 

    Women Happiness

    July 13th, 2006 by anaalayu
    It’s really not difficult…To make a woman happy; a man only needs to
    be:

    01. a friend
    02. a companion
    03. a lover
    04. a brother
    05. a father
    06. a master
    07. a chef
    08. an electrician
    09. a carpenter
    10. a plumber
    11. a mechanic
    12. a decorator
    13. a stylist
    14. a sexologist
    15. a gynaecologist
    16. a psychologist
    17. a pest exterminator
    18. a psychiatrist
    19. a healer
    20. a good listener
    21. an organiser
    22. a good father
    23. very clean
    24. sympathetic
    25. athletic
    26. warm
    27. attentive
    28. gallant
    29. intelligent
    30. funny
    31. creative
    32. tender
    33. strong
    34. understanding
    35. tolerant
    36. prudent
    37. ambitious
    38. capable
    39. courageous
    40. determined
    41. true
    42. dependable
    43. passionate

    WITHOUT FORGETTING TO:
    44. give her compliments regularly
    45. love shopping
    46. be honest
    47. be very rich
    48. not stress her out
    49. not look at other girls

    AND AT THE SAME TIME, YOU MUST ALSO:
    50. give her lots of attention,
    51. give her lots of time, especially time for herself
    52. give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes

    IT IS VERY IMPORTANT:
    53. Never to forget:

    * birthdays
    * anniversaries
    * arrangements she makes

    HOW TO MAKE A MAN HAPPY:-
    01. Feed him
    02. Fu*k him
    03. Leave him in peace

    For John……

    July 12th, 2006 by anaalayu

    When I close my eyes…

    I can see your face..
    My heart calls out, wanting you with me in this special place..

    I can feel your arms holding me tight..
    I long to snuggle close and feel all my fears take flight..

    I can see your smile..
    Reminding me to be patient for just a little while..

    I can feel your gentle touch..
    Shivers run over my skin, I miss you so much..

    I can see the love in your eyes for me..
    Shining brightly where all who care to look can see..

    I can feel your presence surrounding me..holding me..loving me..
    And I know deep in my heart our love was meant to be..

    I love you…

    Letter for John

    July 12th, 2006 by anaalayu

    The first time we met,
    I knew I had a friend.
    The thing I did not know
    is that I would want to
    love you until the very end.
    Your precious love has
    turned my life completely around,
    I feel like I’m walking,
    but my feet don’t seem to
    touch the ground.
    Sometimes you seem to be
    my shinning light
    guiding me through the long, dark night.
    As I lie alone in bed
    thinking of you and I
    I wonder if you think of me too
    as one more night slowly drags by.
    I wish I were there with you,
    kissing your sweet lips
    under the pale moon light,
    and holding you, so very tight.
    You really are the man of my dreams
    and I can’t wait to be with you,
    for the rest of my life.
    I know our time away
    seems like an eternity,
    but I’ll wait forever to be in your life.
    I love you,
    I need you,
    I want you,
    and I will for all my life.